Author: Lauren Hayse 
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For Better or Even Better

7 Lessons on Life & Love from a Non-Monogamist

Discover the candid, transformative journey of a relationship coach navigating life and love outside traditional boundaries. In this insightful guide, readers are invited into a world where transparency, emotional honesty, and vulnerability shape relationships—both monogamous and non-monogamous. With a unique blend of humor, personal anecdotes, and deep wisdom, this book explores the real-life lessons learned from embracing a non-monogamous lifestyle.

Each chapter concludes with powerful conversation starters designed to spark open, honest dialogue with your partner or yourself. These prompts encourage meaningful connections and help you explore your own needs and desires on a deeper level. Whether you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy, seeking to deepen your own relationship, or simply interested in a fresh perspective on love, For Better or Even Better offers a compassionate, practical approach to understanding and honoring what it means to love fully, freely, and with courage.

Early praise

Lauren Hayes' book is a treasure trove of wisdom about relationships in all their forms. Drawing from her personal journey through non-monogamy, Hayes offers insights that not only illuminate the rich diversity of relationships but also emphasize the profound importance of cultivating a deep connection with oneself. Central to the book is the theme of self-discovery—learning to understand yourself intimately and clarifying your desires.

Hayes weaves her lessons seamlessly with engaging personal anecdotes, making the concepts relatable and compelling. What sets this book apart are the thoughtful prompts she provides, encouraging readers to reflect deeply and spark meaningful conversations with their partners. These exercises foster self-awareness and lay a strong foundation for living more consciously and authentically in all relationships.

Inspiring, practical, and transformative, this book is a must-read for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of themselves and the connections they create.

~Carrie Jeroslow, Podcast Host of Relationship Diversity Podcast

As a married monogamous woman I've looked at swinging and judged it as a relationship killer or something purely for the kinky. I've internalized jealousy and insecurity as though even a mere conversation would implode my marriage or create  issues that just don't exist. The problem with this, is that I wasn't allowing myself to realize I was choosing blissful ignorance, stunting my personal growth and development and stunting my connection with the person I love most for fear of shaking up something that "wasn't broken."

This book has so wonderfully put into words a possibility for me to choose deeper growth and intensity through a little bit of risk taking and I don't mean in a room full of swingers, I mean as a monogamous woman more empowered to take risks outside my sexual comfort zones with my husband and redefined the time in which I thought it needed to take to get there.

Doing new activities we enjoy with my partner is comfortable and cozy, and it solidifies the friendship. But what I really want, and I wager so do you, is to create intensity.  Intensity requires risk-taking and stepping outside of my comfort zone, exploring things that are a little more on the edge. I define my own edge, and this book has inspired me to start pushing it more than I have been. It is a page turner and easy and very enjoyable to read. I resonated with it, I laughed with it, I even cried with it. Buy the book. You wont regret it.

K.L.L