Claire Kimberly

Abstract

The paper aims to validate a theoretical model formed by Kimberly and Hans in 2017 that explored how swinging relationships were initiated and maintained. This study tests the theory with 273 self-identified swingers through an online survey. The results mostly supported the previous model but found two exceptions: participants disagreed with having high self-esteem prior to entering the lifestyle and that men (rather than women) screened potential partners.

Key Points

• Theoretical Background: The paper argues that most research on Consensual Non-Monogamous (CNM) relationships has been based on heteronormative, monogamous experiences. This study aims to provide a more nuanced understanding.

• Methodology: The study used an online survey based on the theoretical model formed by Kimberly and Hans in 2017. The survey was completed by 273 self-identified swingers.

• Findings: The study found that most of the theoretical model was supported. However, it found two notable exceptions:

  1. Participants did not necessarily have high self-esteem before entering the swinging lifestyle.
  2. It was not always men who screened potential partners; women played a significant role too.

• Practical Implications: The paper suggests that therapists can use this measurement as a tool to guide dialogue with couples interested in or currently participating in a non-monogamous relationship.

Significance

The paper is significant because it's one of the few that aims to provide a measurement tool for understanding the swinging lifestyle, which can be useful for therapists and researchers. It also challenges some preconceived notions about who initiates and maintains these types of relationships.

Keywords: non-monogamy; therapeutic tool; swinger