Lifestyle

I said no, and now I regret it- help!- Ad, Newcastle    Hi Rosie. My wife and I have visited clubs previously, and we enjoyed the atmosphere but haven't played with others. A little while ago, she was working in a bar, and a guy started talking to her about a threesome. She came home and told me, and I said, let's do it. She took 6 weeks to arrange it, but this time she was messaging him a lot and saw him at the bar.   She wouldn't let me meet him or chat with him online. I stopped it becaus...

How To Act In A Swingers Club   Why I believe this article is long overdue... When working with my coaching clients on a 1-2-1 basis, they often ask me for advice on behaviour and etiquette in clubs.    'How should I/we act in a swingers club? What behaviour is a no-no?'  ...

Body Confidence When Swinging   Recently, I was discussing body confidence with one of my friends, A, who’s a single girl. Although A isn’t a swinger, she’s quite curious about the lifestyle and swinger scene, and I told her I’d take her with me to a club that was suited to her particular fetish when they reopen. She confided in me that although she is keen to attend, she doesn’t feel body positive and confident. I assured her she had nothing to worry about, but this got me thinking, and so I...

Attending A Swingers Party: 9 Top Tips For Female Swingers.   The advice I’m about to give you is the same advice I wish I’d gotten when I took my first tentative dip into the swinger lifestyle. When I first started swinging, I had no idea of what to expect! I didn’t know what to wear, what to take, or how to prepare for the night ahead. A lot of the things I have learnt over the years have been simply through trial and error. However, I don’t want you to struggle as I did, so I figured I woul...

What Are The Rules of Swinging?   When considering entering the world of swinging, it pays to do your research first and discover what the rules of swinging are. And, if there are any, how best to follow them? Do the same rules apply to all situations?   Here are my top 5 Rules to follow when swinging: ...

How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging   This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation. I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. Why? Well, firstly, I already have a lot of information on how to have the swinging conversation and articles on how to get started in the lifestyle. And secondly, I wanted to share what my journey has been l...

Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t Feel Good Enough How many of us have ever felt like we don’t belong? Are we not good enough, do we not have the correct qualifications, or are perhaps fraudsters terrified of being exposed? Throughout my swinger lifestyle journey, from absolute beginner to Rosie Kay, non-Monogamy relationship coach, there have been many changes, revelations, triumphs, and achievements. However, there has also been one constant: the uns...

She said his penis was small, and now things are awkward! Help! Hi there; recently, my wife and I had an interaction with another couple we met online and had become friendly with. After we had all finished playing, my wife revealed to me that she thought the other bloke's penis was quite small and didn't want to meet up with them again. This has now caused an issue as my wife doesn't want a repeat, but the other girl does. We are friends with this couple, and now things are a bit awkward when...

I am worried I sound like a pervert when I talk about sex!   Hi Rosie, my wife and I have been married for ten years, and our relationship is excellent. About six months ago, I suggested exploring the non-monogamy, or swinger lifestyle. She was more on board than I thought she would be, and we subsequently watched some YouTube videos and tried to educate ourselves further. Since this exciting start, however, we have struggled to have further conversations; when I suggest visiting a swinger clu...

Hi Rosie, my partner and I had an incredible swinging experience while we were on vacation. We hooked up with a fun couple, and everything was amazing. Fast forward to Thanksgiving dinner at my aunt and uncle's house, and to our shock, one of the people we played with walks in. Turns out, he's my second cousin! We locked eyes across the table, both of us frozen in shock. We didn't know what to do, and my partner and I didn't speak to the second cousin during the dinner. Now we have to navigate t...