Lifestyle

I am worried I sound like a pervert when I talk about sex!   Hi Rosie, my wife and I have been married for ten years, and our relationship is excellent. About six months ago, I suggested exploring the non-monogamy, or swinger lifestyle. She was more on board than I thought she would be, and we subsequently watched some YouTube videos and tried to educate ourselves further. Since this exciting start, however, we have struggled to have further conversations; when I suggest visiting a swinger clu...

Hi Rosie, my partner and I had an incredible swinging experience while we were on vacation. We hooked up with a fun couple, and everything was amazing. Fast forward to Thanksgiving dinner at my aunt and uncle's house, and to our shock, one of the people we played with walks in. Turns out, he's my second cousin! We locked eyes across the table, both of us frozen in shock. We didn't know what to do, and my partner and I didn't speak to the second cousin during the dinner. Now we have to navigate t...

Hi Rosie, My husband and I are relatively new to the world of swinging. We have spoken to some couples online and have checked out a swingers club locally that we might visit, and although I am not opposed to it, I am struggling to see what role I can play. It's not that I don't want to be part of the lifestyle; I do, but I don't feel I can be intimate with men other than my husband. Whenever I speak to my husband about how I am feeling, he doesn't seem to understand where I am coming from and s...

What should we take when meeting a swinger couple at their house?    Hi Rosie, my wife and I started swinging about six months ago, and we have so far been to a swingers club- where we had a soft swap experience and have also been talking to some swinger couples online with the hope of meeting up for a date and maybe more! The last time we spoke to a couple online, they told us about a private meet at their house they were planning, and this got us thinking: should my wife and I choose to atte...

HANDLING SWINGER EMOTIONS   Handling Swinger Emotions, this topic is part of a mini-series I am doing, all about handling emotions when swinging with another couple. I have already shared with you two great questions that I received, and in this post, I aim to uncover the mixed bag of emotions that arise when you are swinging with other playmates.   Guilt, jealousy, insecurity and discovery are all part of the process, and luckily for you, I’m right here with you to help make sense of this e...

Rejection? Or just busy?   Hi Rosie, I am a single woman in the swinger lifestyle and I have been part of the scene for around 6 months. I have attended a social event here in my hometown and spoke to a few couples online.   Two weeks ago, I had my first meeting with a couple. We have all been getting along fine, and we chat in a group chat every other day, but over the last few days, I have noticed that their responses have become less frequent, and they seem less engaged than they were be...

What if I can’t get it up?   Hi Rosie, I am a 45-year-old single man who is new to the scene. I can't wait to attend my first event and play with couples, but what if I can’t get hard? Is this normal in the lifestyle?   Signed, excited but anxious, Berlin, Germany ...

It is okay to just watch? Hi Rosie, I'm not sure if my question is a common one, but I thought you might be able to offer me some advice on it as I'm not sure who to talk to. My wife and I like the thought of going to a swingers club, and we regularly talk about the experiences we might have and also share our fantasies. Although we want to play with a couple, we are also quite nervous about it- the thought of completely swapping terrifies us, and we were wondering, can we watch in a swingers ...

20 TOP TIPS TO ATTRACT GENUINE SWINGERS TO YOUR SWINGER DATING PROFILE Attracting genuine swingers online involves: Creating a trustworthy and appealing profile. Engaging respectfully with the Community. ...

Hi Rosie, what is soft swinging?    Today, I have decided to create content that often gets overlooked when discussing the lifestyle: soft swinging. In this article, I will discuss soft swinging, why a couple might practice it, and how it is viewed in the adult lifestyle world. Are couples who practice soft swinging less 'useful' than those who 'go all the way'? And are there some couples or individuals who only ever soft-swap?    Turn those lights down low and settle in. It's time to talk a...

Non-Monogamy & Newbie drama! He did what?!? Eyes roll. Jaws drop. Quick, please--somebody fetch my popcorn. Cuz, here we go again! I will tell you the number one cause of newbie drama, hurt feelings, and broken relationships. Lack of communication! But you didn't even know what you were supposed to communicate about, which is what I will explain to you right now. Types of Non-Monogamy ...

This is part 2 of the followng 3 part series. Consensual Non-Monogamy and Other Variations Introducing Your Partner to Consensual Non-Monogamy You're ready to try the Lifestyle--Now what? ...

You and Your Partner Have Decided to Give Swinging a Try How do you find like-minded couples? Should you approach your flirtatious friends? Many of us know people who relish communicating in suggestive innuendos and adult-rated double entendres. Why say something in a normal, everyday tone when you could titillate, or even shock, your audience with risqué subtexts? These folks love to bring the spice to their social interactions. Are they daring you to acknowledge their sexual gist? Maybe you'...

This is part 1 of the followng 3 part series. Consensual Non-Monogamy and Other Variations Introducing Your Partner to Consensual Non-Monogamy You're ready to try the Lifestyle--Now what? ...

This is part 3 of the followng 3 part series. Consensual Non-Monogamy and Other Variations Introducing Your Partner to Consensual Non-Monogamy You're ready to try the Lifestyle--Now what? ...

Nearly 60% of men fantasize about seeing their wives having sexual pleasure with another man. Approximately 30% of women have similar feelings about their husbands. Compersion is the term most frequently associated with this phenomenon. However, Candaulism is a lesser-known term related to this phenomenon. There is some overlap between Compersion and Candaulism. Compersion is more about the relationship, while Candualism is more about sexual activity. Compersion Compersion is the joy we expe...

When attending a swingers party, lifestyle club, or any event that is along the lines of getting naked and freaky with others, its best to have some idea into what’s appropriate and what’s not. Proper Swinger Club Etiquette is something that should never be overlooked. Being respectful, considerate and playing safely whilst still being sexy are things that should be all taken into account. Before I attended my first swingers party, I searched online, hoping to find any information that would he...

RECONNECTING AFTER SWINGING Aftercare is a term we usually associate with BDSM relationships, where the submissive partner is cared for by the dominant partner, as they transition from their roles as submissive and dominant back to Jane and Pete from Croydon. Aftercare, or reconnecting, is crucial and should never be ignored. I believe so strongly about the importance of reconnecting after swinging, that I am going to dedicate a whole post to this intimate ritual act. So as always, slip into so...

Male Insecurities And Swinging- Help! I Can’t Get Hard! Recently, I received a question from one of my male followers, who wanted to ask for my thoughts on male sexual performance, and how did I feel about it when a guy loses his erection during a swingers party? Could I share any insight into how men could deal with this and how does it make women feel? Was there a right or wrong way to deal with it? Is there any ‘Erectile Disfunction Etiquette’ that should be followed? There’s more to it than...

You have been chatting with another couple online, and perhaps you have had a swinger first date where you guys have discussed your expectations, limits and kinks. You have all gotten to know one another, and you like what you see! It’s only natural that you then want to meet up and turn all your fantasies into realities! Here are a few of my top tips for swinging with another couple: It would be best if you established where it is acceptable to orgasm before you orgasm! You also should ask...