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Couples

By Yesterday, 10:05 am
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When Should We Take The Next Step? Hi Rosie, my wife and I have been together since we were 14, have become curious about being swingers. We have recently been to a swinger club in Spain a few times, and we both find it very exciting. We have only had sex with each other without anyone else, but we think we want to explore further with a threesome or other couples. How do we know we are ready for that? Carlos- Madrid Hi Carlos, It's fantastic that you and your wife are exploring this new c...
General Education

By March 3, 2025
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This is why you are struggling to meet people on swinger dating sites You need to be an invested ‘online dater’. Any form of online dating, ENM or not, requires a level of investment if you actually want to meet someone. If you simply want to hook up fu&k around or are not sure what you are looking for, lol, then this article isn’t for you. Look away now. But if you want to meet someone or some people with genuine intentions, i.e. swinger couples, then you will want to continue reading. Somet...
Lifestyle

By February 24, 2025
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Here at Thiskindagirl, I want to bring you all the answers you are looking for. And how better to do this than a dedicated Swinger Lifestyle FAQ article? This article is a round-up of the most popular questions and topics that my followers send me on social media and by email. Get clued up and swinger smart before you get completely confused about the lifestyle! WHAT IS SWINGING? Swinging is a form of ethical non-monogamy, where sexual inhibitions are extended past the committed relationship ...
Lifestyle

By February 5, 2025
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What makes you an expert? But what makes you an expert? It's a fair question and one I've been asked a few times lately. The answer, like most things, is multifaceted. ...
Lifestyle

By February 3, 2025
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ARE SWINGER FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE? We all know what friends with benefits are. I’m sure at some point in your life, you have had one, or have been one, or maybe you are living your best FWB life right now? But when it comes to swinging and swinger relationships, do FWB still exist? And if so, where do you find them? I mean, truth be told, it all sounds pretty perfect! A swinger couple who you can play with, without fear of emotions getting caught up or complications? Are sw...
Lifestyle

By January 31, 2025
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Ready to dive deeper into the world of ethical non-monogamy and connect with a like-minded community? The TKG Club is your all-access pass to everything ENM, hosted on CNM4US! It's the perfect place for you if: You're curious about any aspect of ENM, from cuckolding and swinging to exploring open relationships!  You're done with time-wasters and crave genuine connections!  ...
Lifestyle

By January 27, 2025
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Do we have to DO anything when swinging? One question I hear frequently and can certainly relate to is: Do we have to DO anything when swinging? I remember when I first got involved in the lifestyle, and one of my biggest fears was having to do things that I wasn’t comfortable doing. And later, when I became a single female swinger, again, I was worried that I would feel pressure from couples, especially, to play with them. I wanted to make a piece of content that offers you answers from two p...
Single Men

By January 20, 2025
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Why do some men have more success in Swinger Clubs? And no, it’s nothing physical! It’s got nothing to do with dick size, chest size, salary or what a man drives. Neither has it anything to do with how much he paid for his ticket, what clubs he has been to before or how many people he’s slept with. When it comes to why do some men have more success in Swinger Clubs? (and I hear this question a lot) in my experience, it boils down to a few factors, and none of them, as you have probably guessed,...
Aftercare

By January 17, 2025
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Being involved in the lifestyle certainly has its perks. These are juicy add-ons that no one has told you about. The little bonus’s that reconfirm that your decision to start swinging was the right one. You know what I’m talking about; The secret world you create within your existing relationship, where you experience compersion, honesty and total trust. The intimate environment where you revel in complete acceptance from your partner, husband or wife; they love you, know you, understand you and...
Lifestyle

By December 20, 2024
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I'm A Swinger Lifestyle Expert, But I Don't Like The Word Swinging.   Recently, I received this question: Rosie, how come people still use the word swinger? What does it mean? Isn't it a bit, well, dated? Is there something more appropriate for 2024?   To which I replied with: 'You know, I don't even like the word Swinger; it doesn't resonate with me; you are right; it is a dated term.' And so here's the predicament, guys and girls; I'm a swinger lifetsyle expert who doesn't like the word sw...
Lifestyle

By December 13, 2024
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TKG Club: Your Gateway to a Wider World of ENM   Tired of the same old dating apps and the endless search for genuine connection within the Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) world? You're not alone.   Many of us crave a deeper, more meaningful experience beyond casual hookups and superficial interactions. ...
General Education

By November 21, 2024
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Top Swinger Date Ideas  Welcome to ‘the Lifestyle’. If you are reading this, then chances are you have already had the ‘I Want To Try Swinging’ conversation with your partner or have given it some serious consideration if you are a single person wanting to get involved in swinging. But how do you go about having that all-important swinger first date?    Here are a few top swinger date ideas: ...
Couples

By November 6, 2024
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I said no, and now I regret it- help!- Ad, Newcastle    Hi Rosie. My wife and I have visited clubs previously, and we enjoyed the atmosphere but haven't played with others. A little while ago, she was working in a bar, and a guy started talking to her about a threesome. She came home and told me, and I said, let's do it. She took 6 weeks to arrange it, but this time she was messaging him a lot and saw him at the bar.   She wouldn't let me meet him or chat with him online. I stopped it becaus...
General Education

By October 31, 2024
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How To Act In A Swingers Club   Why I believe this article is long overdue... When working with my coaching clients on a 1-2-1 basis, they often ask me for advice on behaviour and etiquette in clubs.    'How should I/we act in a swingers club? What behaviour is a no-no?'  ...
General Education

By October 25, 2024
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Body Confidence When Swinging   Recently, I was discussing body confidence with one of my friends, A, who’s a single girl. Although A isn’t a swinger, she’s quite curious about the lifestyle and swinger scene, and I told her I’d take her with me to a club that was suited to her particular fetish when they reopen. She confided in me that although she is keen to attend, she doesn’t feel body positive and confident. I assured her she had nothing to worry about, but this got me thinking, and so I...
Single Women

By October 24, 2024
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Attending A Swingers Party: 9 Top Tips For Female Swingers.   The advice I’m about to give you is the same advice I wish I’d gotten when I took my first tentative dip into the swinger lifestyle. When I first started swinging, I had no idea of what to expect! I didn’t know what to wear, what to take, or how to prepare for the night ahead. A lot of the things I have learnt over the years have been simply through trial and error. However, I don’t want you to struggle as I did, so I figured I woul...
General Education

By October 24, 2024
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What Are The Rules of Swinging?   When considering entering the world of swinging, it pays to do your research first and discover what the rules of swinging are. And, if there are any, how best to follow them? Do the same rules apply to all situations?   Here are my top 5 Rules to follow when swinging: ...
Lifestyle

By October 14, 2024
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How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging   This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation. I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. Why? Well, firstly, I already have a lot of information on how to have the swinging conversation and articles on how to get started in the lifestyle. And secondly, I wanted to share what my journey has been l...
Lifestyle

By September 24, 2024
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Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t Feel Good Enough How many of us have ever felt like we don’t belong? Are we not good enough, do we not have the correct qualifications, or are perhaps fraudsters terrified of being exposed? Throughout my swinger lifestyle journey, from absolute beginner to Rosie Kay, non-Monogamy relationship coach, there have been many changes, revelations, triumphs, and achievements. However, there has also been one constant: the uns...
Couples

By August 27, 2024
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She said his penis was small, and now things are awkward! Help! Hi there; recently, my wife and I had an interaction with another couple we met online and had become friendly with. After we had all finished playing, my wife revealed to me that she thought the other bloke's penis was quite small and didn't want to meet up with them again. This has now caused an issue as my wife doesn't want a repeat, but the other girl does. We are friends with this couple, and now things are a bit awkward when...
Lifestyle

By August 15, 2024
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I am worried I sound like a pervert when I talk about sex!   Hi Rosie, my wife and I have been married for ten years, and our relationship is excellent. About six months ago, I suggested exploring the non-monogamy, or swinger lifestyle. She was more on board than I thought she would be, and we subsequently watched some YouTube videos and tried to educate ourselves further. Since this exciting start, however, we have struggled to have further conversations; when I suggest visiting a swinger clu...
General Education

By July 24, 2024
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Hi Rosie, my partner and I had an incredible swinging experience while we were on vacation. We hooked up with a fun couple, and everything was amazing. Fast forward to Thanksgiving dinner at my aunt and uncle's house, and to our shock, one of the people we played with walks in. Turns out, he's my second cousin! We locked eyes across the table, both of us frozen in shock. We didn't know what to do, and my partner and I didn't speak to the second cousin during the dinner. Now we have to navigate t...
Couples

By July 17, 2024
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Hi Rosie, My husband and I are relatively new to the world of swinging. We have spoken to some couples online and have checked out a swingers club locally that we might visit, and although I am not opposed to it, I am struggling to see what role I can play. It's not that I don't want to be part of the lifestyle; I do, but I don't feel I can be intimate with men other than my husband. Whenever I speak to my husband about how I am feeling, he doesn't seem to understand where I am coming from and s...
Couples

By July 1, 2024
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What should we take when meeting a swinger couple at their house?    Hi Rosie, my wife and I started swinging about six months ago, and we have so far been to a swingers club- where we had a soft swap experience and have also been talking to some swinger couples online with the hope of meeting up for a date and maybe more! The last time we spoke to a couple online, they told us about a private meet at their house they were planning, and this got us thinking: should my wife and I choose to atte...
General Education

By June 24, 2024
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HANDLING SWINGER EMOTIONS   Handling Swinger Emotions, this topic is part of a mini-series I am doing, all about handling emotions when swinging with another couple. I have already shared with you two great questions that I received, and in this post, I aim to uncover the mixed bag of emotions that arise when you are swinging with other playmates.   Guilt, jealousy, insecurity and discovery are all part of the process, and luckily for you, I’m right here with you to help make sense of this e...
Single Women

By June 17, 2024
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Rejection? Or just busy?   Hi Rosie, I am a single woman in the swinger lifestyle and I have been part of the scene for around 6 months. I have attended a social event here in my hometown and spoke to a few couples online.   Two weeks ago, I had my first meeting with a couple. We have all been getting along fine, and we chat in a group chat every other day, but over the last few days, I have noticed that their responses have become less frequent, and they seem less engaged than they were be...
Single Men

By June 13, 2024
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What if I can’t get it up?   Hi Rosie, I am a 45-year-old single man who is new to the scene. I can't wait to attend my first event and play with couples, but what if I can’t get hard? Is this normal in the lifestyle?   Signed, excited but anxious, Berlin, Germany ...
Couples

By June 13, 2024
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It is okay to just watch? Hi Rosie, I'm not sure if my question is a common one, but I thought you might be able to offer me some advice on it as I'm not sure who to talk to. My wife and I like the thought of going to a swingers club, and we regularly talk about the experiences we might have and also share our fantasies. Although we want to play with a couple, we are also quite nervous about it- the thought of completely swapping terrifies us, and we were wondering, can we watch in a swingers ...
General Education

By June 3, 2024
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20 TOP TIPS TO ATTRACT GENUINE SWINGERS TO YOUR SWINGER DATING PROFILE Attracting genuine swingers online involves: Creating a trustworthy and appealing profile. Engaging respectfully with the Community. ...
General Education

By May 14, 2024
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Hi Rosie, what is soft swinging?    Today, I have decided to create content that often gets overlooked when discussing the lifestyle: soft swinging. In this article, I will discuss soft swinging, why a couple might practice it, and how it is viewed in the adult lifestyle world. Are couples who practice soft swinging less 'useful' than those who 'go all the way'? And are there some couples or individuals who only ever soft-swap?    Turn those lights down low and settle in. It's time to talk a...
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