CNM Library

"Opening Up" is a comprehensive guide on non-monogamous relationships, written by Tristan Taormino, a well-known author and educator on sexuality. The book is often recommended for its practical advice, in-depth research, and inclusive approach to various forms of non-monogamous relationships. Taormino combines personal anecdotes, interviews with people in open relationships, and practical advice to provide a thorough overview of the subject. Key topics covered in the book include: Differen...

"Feminist Trauma Theologies: Body, Scripture & Church in Critical Perspective," edited by Karen O’Donnell and Katie Cross, is a groundbreaking collection that explores the intersection of trauma, theology, and feminist perspectives. This compilation is significant in its approach to trauma theology, a field that acknowledges the enduring impact of traumatic experiences and seeks to integrate these experiences within theological discourse. The book is described as a revelatory journey, sometimes...

"Nadia Bolz-Weber's book *Shameless: A Sexual Reformation* is a provocative and insightful critique of traditional Christian teachings on sexuality. Bolz-Weber, a former pastor, draws from her personal experiences, as well as those of her friends and congregants, to challenge and reformulate Christian perspectives on sex, gender, and relationships. The book is described as a mix of memoir and call to action. Bolz-Weber's critique is grounded in biblical texts and the perspectives of both early ...

Linda Kay Klein's book, "Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free," delves into the consequences of purity culture within evangelical Christianity, particularly its impact on girls and young women. The book is described as a contentious debut, blending Klein's personal experiences with a broader exploration of evangelical purity culture. Klein reflects on her upbringing as a conservative Evangelical Christian and the sexual shaming she e...

"Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle," authored by sisters Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., and Amelia Nagoski, D.M.A., is a comprehensive exploration of the phenomena of burnout, particularly focusing on how it affects women. The book presents burnout as a condition with three primary components: emotional exhaustion (the fatigue from caring too much for too long), depersonalization (the depletion of empathy, caring, and compassion), and a decreased sense of accomplishment (a feeling of futi...

This is the summary of article taken from: https://www.shipspsychology.com.au If you like the summary, we encourage you to follow the link below to their site to read the entire article.   The Gist The article is written from a psychologist's perspective and aims to guide people who are interested in exploring non-monogamy but are unsure how to initiate that conversation with their partner. It stresses that both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships can be ethical and fulfilling. ...

For much of the 20th and 21st centuries, women’s sexuality was an uncharted territory in science, studied far less frequently—and far less seriously—than its male counterpart. That is, until Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are, which used groundbreaking science and research to prove that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized but how you feel about them. In the years since the book’s initial...

"Poly Secure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy" by Jessica Fern is a game-changer for folks interested in or practicing polyamory or other forms of consensual non-monogamy (CNM). The book aims to fuse attachment theory with the dynamics of CNM relationships, providing a nuanced understanding of how people in such relationships can create secure attachments. Main Themes Attachment Theory: Jessica Fern delves into how our attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, etc.) i...

The authors argue that early human societies were likely more egalitarian and sexually open. They delve into anthropology, primatology, and psychology to support their claims. The book suggests that the agricultural revolution changed the social dynamics, leading to the property-oriented and monogamous structures we see today. Before that, sharing resources—including sexual partners—was more common and even beneficial for social cohesion. They also critique the "standard narrative" that men are...

By Natalie Babcock | Los Angele Times Sept. 8, 2023 5 AM PT   Last spring, after eight years of a stable partnership, my husband and I opened our marriage. In truth, I was the one to push for this change in the first place. For many, this disclosure would have been an absolute curveball. But fortunately Sam and I had been fleshing out the parameters of ethical nonmonogamy for some time, theoretically musing about the drawbacks of long-term partnership since our third date. ...