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By Natalie Babcock | Los Angele Times Sept. 8, 2023 5 AM PT   Last spring, after eight years of a stable partnership, my husband and I opened our marriage. In truth, I was the one to push for this change in the first place. For many, this disclosure would have been an absolute curveball. But fortunately Sam and I had been fleshing out the parameters of ethical nonmonogamy for some time, theoretically musing about the drawbacks of long-term partnership since our third date. ...

Claire Kimberly and Robert McGinley To cite this article: Claire Kimberly & Robert McGinley (2018): Changes in the swinging lifestyle: a US national and historical comparison, Culture, Health & Sexuality, DOI:10.1080/13691058.2018.1460692 Abstract The paper aims to understand how the swinging lifestyle has evolved over time, comparing data from the 1980s to 2016. The study found that compared to the general population, swingers are more likely to be Caucasian, younger, educated, and wealthy. ...

Claire Kimberly, Jason D. Hans Received: 5 July 2014 / Revised: 31 August 2015 / Accepted: 7 September 2015  Springer Science+Business Media New York 2015 Abstract The paper focuses on swinger couples—committed couples who consensually engage in extra-relational sex for recreational purposes. The study aims to understand the experiences of such couples, especially how they transition into and maintain marital satisfaction in the swinging lifestyle. The paper is based on 32 semi-structured in...

Claire Kimberly Abstract The paper aims to validate a theoretical model formed by Kimberly and Hans in 2017 that explored how swinging relationships were initiated and maintained. This study tests the theory with 273 self-identified swingers through an online survey. The results mostly supported the previous model but found two exceptions: participants disagreed with having high self-esteem prior to entering the lifestyle and that men (rather than women) screened potential partners. Key Point...

Claire Kimberly & Amanda L. Williams & Stacy Creel © Springer Science+Business Media New York 2017 Abstract The paper explores the relationship between women's consumption of erotica, particularly BDSM-focused literature like "Fifty Shades of Grey," and their sexual and relationship satisfaction. The study aims to understand how erotica introduces women to alternative sexual behaviors like BDSM and how this affects their relationships and overall well-being. Key Points ...

Gurit E. Birnbaum, Yaniv Kanat-Maymon, Moran Mizrahi, May Recanati, and Romy Orr Abstract The paper explores how sexual fantasies affect relationships. It focuses on "dyadic fantasies" (fantasies about one's partner) and "extradyadic fantasies" (fantasies about someone other than one's partner). The study aims to understand how these fantasies contribute to relationship outcomes and the mechanisms that underlie this connection. Key Points ...

Abstract The paper argues for the value of compersion, a term used in non-monogamous communities to describe positive feelings towards a partner's intimacy with other people. The author challenges the idea that jealousy is a natural or virtuous emotional disposition, suggesting that compersion focuses on the flourishing of others and is not akin to pride, vicarious enjoyment, or masochistic pleasure. Key Points ...

When it comes to commitment, does sexual orientation make a difference? Posted September 27, 2014 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader Our world loves simple, black-and-white categories, and life is not always easy for the people who don’t easily fit in the resulting dichotomies—gay or straight; male or female. Consider bisexuals, often unwelcome in both straight and gay/lesbian communities. The list of stereotypes about bisexuals is long: confused; in transition; greedy; repressed homosexuals; att...

What the experiences of nonmonogamous couples can tell us about jealousy, love, desire and trust. By Susan Dominus ...

Description Relationships aren't "one-size-fits-all" so why should relationship advice be? Multiamory offers practical, research-based communication tools for the full spectrum of modern relationships.   When Multiamory authors Dedeker Winston, Emily Sotelo Matlack, and Jase Lindgren started producing their advice show about polyamory and other non-traditional relationships, they received dozens of questions from listeners about all sorts of relationship quandaries and communication stalema...