March 31, 2025
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How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging
This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation.
I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear.
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March 18, 2025
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20 Top Tips To Attract Genuine Swingers To Your Swinger Dating Profile
Here are my TOP TIPS to help you attract genuine swingers:
Create an Authentic Profile. What do I mean by an authentic profile? Here, I am referring to a profile that truly represents who you are and what you are all about. Authentic profiles are 60% swinger information and 40% about you as a person. They include a good mixture of pictures and are not overly explicit. I explain this further in How to create a Great Swing...
March 18, 2025
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How To Write A Great Swinger Dating App Profile
Recently, I've been conversing with my coaching clients about swinger dating apps. These conversations have ranged from which to use to what to include to which to avoid, and I wanted to make a piece of content where I share my top tips on How To Write A Great Swinger Dating App Profile with you.
From what I've seen
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March 10, 2025
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Different Types Of ENM Dynamics. We all have our own ideas as to what makes sex great! Sex is as unique as the person having it. What makes YOU tick is exclusive and reserved only for you. Yes, we may enjoy something similar to others or have shared fantasies and desires, however, the emotions, the sensations and the particular way that your body responds to sex is deeply personal. We may have wants and desires that we share, but only we know our true comfort levels. There is no right or wrong w...
March 6, 2025
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Male Insecurities And Swinging- Help! I Can't Get Hard!
Recently, I received a question from one of my male followers, who wanted to ask for my thoughts on male sexual performance and how I deal with a situation where a guy loses his erection during a swinger party. Could I share any insight into how men could deal with this and how it makes women feel? Was there a right or wrong way to deal with it? Any 'Erectile Disfunction Etiquette' that should be followed?
First of all, it is important to...
March 3, 2025
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This is why you are struggling to meet people on swinger dating sites
You need to be an invested ‘online dater’.
Any form of online dating, ENM or not, requires a level of investment if you actually want to meet someone. If you simply want to hook up fu&k around or are not sure what you are looking for, lol, then this article isn’t for you. Look away now. But if you want to meet someone or some people with genuine intentions, i.e. swinger couples, then you will want to continue reading.
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February 24, 2025
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Here at Thiskindagirl, I want to bring you all the answers you are looking for. And how better to do this than a dedicated Swinger Lifestyle FAQ article? This article is a round-up of the most popular questions and topics that my followers send me on social media and by email.
Get clued up and swinger smart before you get completely confused about the lifestyle!
WHAT IS SWINGING?
Swinging is a form of ethical non-monogamy, where sexual inhibitions are extended past the committed relationship ...
February 17, 2025
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Can A Relationship Be Open For Only One Person?
The short answer is yes, but as with most things Non-Monogamy related, it isn’t as straightforward as that.
Yes, a relationship can be open for only one person if you have a solid foundation to draw from and rules and boundaries that you follow. But unless you have honest conversation and understanding from both parties, this type of relationship won’t work.
When I first started swinging, I was part of a couple, and my first experience and subse...
February 10, 2025
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First Time At A Swingers Club
Several of my followers requested this article on Instagram.
So, being your swinger lifestyle guru, I felt it only fitting that I rise to the occasion. Although I have written articles about visiting a club for the first time, swinger club etiquette and dos and don’ts, what I haven’t written about, and what many of you are curious about, is what it is like walking into a club for the first time?
How do you find the location of a club? And what can you expect to f...
February 5, 2025
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What makes you an expert?
But what makes you an expert?
It's a fair question and one I've been asked a few times lately. The answer, like most things, is multifaceted.
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February 3, 2025
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ARE SWINGER FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE?
We all know what friends with benefits are. I’m sure at some point in your life, you have had one, or have been one, or maybe you are living your best FWB life right now? But when it comes to swinging and swinger relationships, do FWB still exist? And if so, where do you find them?
I mean, truth be told, it all sounds pretty perfect! A swinger couple who you can play with, without fear of emotions getting caught up or complications? Are sw...
January 31, 2025
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Ready to dive deeper into the world of ethical non-monogamy and connect with a like-minded community?
The TKG Club is your all-access pass to everything ENM, hosted on CNM4US! It's the perfect place for you if:
You're curious about any aspect of ENM, from cuckolding and swinging to exploring open relationships!
You're done with time-wasters and crave genuine connections!
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January 27, 2025
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Do we have to DO anything when swinging?
One question I hear frequently and can certainly relate to is: Do we have to DO anything when swinging?
I remember when I first got involved in the lifestyle, and one of my biggest fears was having to do things that I wasn’t comfortable doing. And later, when I became a single female swinger, again, I was worried that I would feel pressure from couples, especially, to play with them. I wanted to make a piece of content that offers you answers from two p...
January 24, 2025
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What Happens When A Couple Go From Monogamy to Ethical Non-Monogamy?
Going from a previously monogamous relationship to a newly Ethically non-monogamous one is something that needs careful consideration, communication and compromise.
When you are looking to explore Ethical Non-Monogamy, it can be hard to know where to begin and what might happen to your relationship. Very often the biggest question a couple has is ‘is this going to jeopardise our relationship? I understand what it is like, whi...
January 22, 2025
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What Is It Like Seeing Your Partner With Someone Else?
For many of us, seeing our partner with someone else is the stuff of our nightmares. Watching as they kiss, touch, and, well, get it on with another person (usually of the opposite sex) is, for the majority of couples, the one thing they are absolutely terrified of. Or are they?
Are there, instead, some couples who actively enjoy watching their partner with someone else? And do all couples feel the same about seeing their dear beloved in t...
January 20, 2025
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Why do some men have more success in Swinger Clubs?
And no, it’s nothing physical! It’s got nothing to do with dick size, chest size, salary or what a man drives. Neither has it anything to do with how much he paid for his ticket, what clubs he has been to before or how many people he’s slept with. When it comes to why do some men have more success in Swinger Clubs? (and I hear this question a lot) in my experience, it boils down to a few factors, and none of them, as you have probably guessed,...
January 17, 2025
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Being involved in the lifestyle certainly has its perks. These are juicy add-ons that no one has told you about. The little bonus’s that reconfirm that your decision to start swinging was the right one. You know what I’m talking about; The secret world you create within your existing relationship, where you experience compersion, honesty and total trust. The intimate environment where you revel in complete acceptance from your partner, husband or wife; they love you, know you, understand you and...
January 9, 2025
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With no set genre the Free4allpod is what is says on the tin...a real Free4all. A mix of lighthearted chat, special features as well as some of those more challenging topics. Listener interaction is always welcome. So come listen and have a Free4all.
Swinger lifestyle and non-monogamy coach Rosie-Kay joins me on the podcast to talk all things swinging lifestyle and her role as a relationship coach.
Rosie shares some of her experiences of getting into the swinger lifestyle, living that lifestyl...
December 20, 2024
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I'm A Swinger Lifestyle Expert, But I Don't Like The Word Swinging.
Recently, I received this question: Rosie, how come people still use the word swinger? What does it mean? Isn't it a bit, well, dated? Is there something more appropriate for 2024?
To which I replied with: 'You know, I don't even like the word Swinger; it doesn't resonate with me; you are right; it is a dated term.' And so here's the predicament, guys and girls; I'm a swinger lifetsyle expert who doesn't like the word sw...
December 13, 2024
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What To Do If Your Partner Wants An Open Relationship
For many people on the receiving end of having the ‘I want to have an open relationship’ conversation, they have a thought process that sounds a little like this; ‘am I not enough, and does my partner not love me are they going to leave me?’ I want to reassure you that this immediate concern is entirely natural and normal, and I have been in both situations, so I know what it feels like. In this article, I’m going to shed some light on wh...
December 13, 2024
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TKG Club: Your Gateway to a Wider World of ENM
Tired of the same old dating apps and the endless search for genuine connection within the Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) world? You're not alone.
Many of us crave a deeper, more meaningful experience beyond casual hookups and superficial interactions.
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November 26, 2024
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How To Host Swinger Parties: I have wanted to write this post for quite a while. It's been niggling away at me. A dull ache, my desire to share with you, an intimate account of what goes on behind closed doors. In this post, you will discover how I like to play and what I get up to behind closed doors! Not only are you going to get all the best advice on hosting swinging parties (so your parties are destined to be a sexy success) I will also be drawing from my own experiences of parties I have a...
November 21, 2024
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Top Swinger Date Ideas
Welcome to ‘the Lifestyle’. If you are reading this, then chances are you have already had the ‘I Want To Try Swinging’ conversation with your partner or have given it some serious consideration if you are a single person wanting to get involved in swinging. But how do you go about having that all-important swinger first date?
Here are a few top swinger date ideas:
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October 31, 2024
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How To Act In A Swingers Club
Why I believe this article is long overdue... When working with my coaching clients on a 1-2-1 basis, they often ask me for advice on behaviour and etiquette in clubs.
'How should I/we act in a swingers club? What behaviour is a no-no?'
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October 25, 2024
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Body Confidence When Swinging
Recently, I was discussing body confidence with one of my friends, A, who’s a single girl. Although A isn’t a swinger, she’s quite curious about the lifestyle and swinger scene, and I told her I’d take her with me to a club that was suited to her particular fetish when they reopen.
She confided in me that although she is keen to attend, she doesn’t feel body positive and confident. I assured her she had nothing to worry about, but this got me thinking, and so I...
October 24, 2024
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Attending A Swingers Party: 9 Top Tips For Female Swingers.
The advice I’m about to give you is the same advice I wish I’d gotten when I took my first tentative dip into the swinger lifestyle. When I first started swinging, I had no idea of what to expect! I didn’t know what to wear, what to take, or how to prepare for the night ahead. A lot of the things I have learnt over the years have been simply through trial and error. However, I don’t want you to struggle as I did, so I figured I woul...
October 24, 2024
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What Are The Rules of Swinging?
When considering entering the world of swinging, it pays to do your research first and discover what the rules of swinging are. And, if there are any, how best to follow them? Do the same rules apply to all situations?
Here are my top 5 Rules to follow when swinging:
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October 14, 2024
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How To Tell Someone You Like Swinging
This article isn’t going to tell you how to talk to your partner about starting swinging. Neither is it going to advise you on how to have that conversation. I’m not going to sugarcoat the truth, and I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear. Why? Well, firstly, I already have a lot of information on how to have the swinging conversation and articles on how to get started in the lifestyle.
And secondly, I wanted to share what my journey has been l...
September 24, 2024
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Overcoming Impostor Syndrome: How to Believe in Yourself Even When You Don’t Feel Good Enough
How many of us have ever felt like we don’t belong? Are we not good enough, do we not have the correct qualifications, or are perhaps fraudsters terrified of being exposed? Throughout my swinger lifestyle journey, from absolute beginner to Rosie Kay, non-Monogamy relationship coach, there have been many changes, revelations, triumphs, and achievements. However, there has also been one constant: the uns...
August 5, 2024
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Over recent years, the swinger lifestyle has exploded in popularity here in the UK. The UK’s diverse swinging community includes people of various ages, backgrounds, and relationship statuses. Couples, singles, and people of different sexual orientations participate.
Did you know that 1.5 million Brits are swingers? There are reported to be over 150 swingers clubs here in the UK, but how do you go about meeting one of these sexually liberated adults or visiting one of these elusive venues?
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